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The King who Inscribes his Character on Us

A message for Christ the King Sunday

  • Our King does not dominate or dictate
  • Our King invigorates us to be like him


There are a number of churches around the world named “Christ the King.” The Cathedral of Christ the King in Mullingar, Ireland, is reportedly the first church given that name. The Cathedral of Christ the King in Atlanta is one of the ten largest congregations in the United States. Those are just a couple of the big Christ the King churches. There are numerous smaller congregations too. 

I don’t know of any churches named “Christ the Tyrant” or “Christ the Despot” or “Christ the Dictator.” I Google-searched for such names, but couldn’t find any. I did find an opinion piece arguing that Christians tend to view their Lord that way–as a benevolent dictator. But if there are people of faith who take that view, they’re mistaken. Christ the King is certainly not like some military strongman or arbitrary emperor, nor even like a benevolent dictator.  Christ is not someone who looks upon us as weak subjects who do his bidding simply to suit his whims. Christ did not become our king by standing above us, pointing out what we must do from moment to moment. Christ became our king by standing with us, among us, leading us in a path we could not have followed without his leadership. Jesus said to those who followed him, “I am among you as one who serves” (Luke 22:27). On the night he said that, Jesus proved his point by getting down on the floor and washing his disciples’ feet (cf. John 13).

Quite clearly, Jesus is the opposite of a tyrant.  He won our allegiance by going into battle against tyrants and overlords for us. The tyrant was sin. The tyrant was the devil who accuses and all the demons that torment us. Those are the sorts of rulers that dictate and demand, that control us by fear and guilt. Christ is not like that.

Jesus is also much different from even the most benevolent dictator. Such a ruler believes that he must decide all things for the people underneath him because they are underlings and he is so much above them. Now, it is true that Christ, our King, certainly does know what is best for us.  Christ is “the wisdom of God” (1 Corinthians 1:24).  As high as the heavens are above the earth, so far are his thoughts higher than our thoughts (cf. Isaiah 55:9). But the fact that Christ is superior to us in all things does not mean he deals with us as inferiors. Rather, he comes alongside us and shares his life and strength with us. He invigorates us with his words, his Spirit, so that we become alive in him. We become more and more like him as we grow in our relationship with him.

I have known God-fearing people who haven’t understood this, who haven’t grasped how Christ is seeking to lead them. They trouble themselves over every detail of their lives, searching desperately for some sort of sign from God. “What is God’s will?” they’ll say; “What does God want me to do?” I knew a woman who struggled over the smallest decisions like that. She begged to know what actions God wanted her to take, almost hoping a daily to-do list would appear like handwriting on the wall, so she’d know she wasn’t making any mistakes. In her anxiousness, she once put two pens side by side on the table and asked, “Now, which pen does God want me to use? The blue one or the black one?” That’s going too far in expecting God to direct our lives. Yes, Christ is our leader by night and by day. But Jesus leads us not as though we are blindfolded and he must guide our feet for every step we take. He instills his character and his way of life in us, so that we make our own decisions as the new persons that we are in Christ (cf. 2 Corinthians 5:17).  It’s an outmoded way, a childish way, to want God to dictate every direction to us, to tell us exactly what to do in every instant. It’s a new way of life, as we become mature in Christ, that we  make our own decisions and take actions that flow from the mind of Christ which is in us (cf. 1 Corinthians 2:16). 

Consider the Epistle assigned for this weekend for the festival of Christ the King.  The prayer for the Christians at Ephesus remains an apostlic prayer for us today.  Notice the emphasis on how the power of Christ works in us and inspires us as he extends his kingdom into our hearts.

  • I pray that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give you a spirit of wisdom and revelation as you come to know him, so that, with the eyes of your heart enlightened, you may know what is the hope to which he has called you … and what is the immeasurable greatness of his power for us who believe, according to the working of his great power. God put this power to work in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly places, far above all rule and authority and power and dominion ….  And he has put all things under his feet and has made him the head over all things for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills all in all (Ephesians 1:17-23). 

Christ as king is head over all things for us. That’s not an image of some giant head floating in the air like the Great and Powerful Oz. There’s no false pretense of power with Christ our King. He rules in a way far better than the way any authority in this world operates.  Even while Christ is seated high above in the heavenly places, he is at the same time intimately connected to us, like the head to members of the body. His thoughts pulse through us and we operate in unity with him. We are his feet to run out into the world, his hands to extend help and care to persons in his name, to put into practice his love.

Consider also the description of what Christ will find when he returns at the end of time, when he “comes in his glory, and all the angels with him” and “all the nations will be gathered before him” (Matthew 25:31-42).  Who are the people he calls his own, who truly have known him? 

  • The king will say to those at his right hand, “Come, you that are blessed by my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world; for I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you gave me clothing, I was sick and you took care of me, I was in prison and you visited me” (Matthew 25:34-36).

When Christ says this to his people, what is their reaction?  “When did we do that?” They wonder what he’s talking about. Christ’s people do such actions on behalf of “the least of these” fellow members of the human family not because they’re keeping score of their good deeds, not because they’re trying to impress God by their actions. They do such things just because that’s who they are, because the spirit of Christ inhabits them and propels them into action.  The people of Christ’s kingdom serve everyone they encounter without thinking, “This is something I must do because the king has issued an executive order.” Yes, the kingdom of Christ has laws, but those laws are designed by our Lord for our good and the good of our neighbors. As we grow in our understanding and relationship with our King, we embody more and more the spirit and compassion and action that he has for all who are in need. We become Christ to our neighbors.

Martin Luther famously wrote on that theme–that we become like “little Christs.” In his booklet On the Freedom of a Christian (1520), Luther wrote:

  • Since God has overwhelmed me with such inestimable riches, why should I not freely, cheerfully, and with my whole heart do all that I know will be pleasing to him? I will therefore give myself, as a sort of Christ, to my neighbor, as Christ has given himself to me. I will do whatever is advantageous and wholesome for my neighbor, since by faith I abound in all good things in Christ. … We each become a sort of Christ to each other, so that we may be mutually Christs, and that the same Christ may be in all of us; that is, that we may be truly Christians.

Our life as Christ’s people, in his service, is not like serving an earthly ruler who dominates and bullies to get his way, and whose subjects survive by trying to ingratiate themselves with the ruler. We serve as people whose character has been transformed by the grace and goodness of our king. We become his allies in extending the life of his kingdom into a world that has not understood him and operates by principles so often opposite to his.

Which leads to one final point that must be mentioned.  We need to take notice of the other sort of approach that predominates in this world. It is an approach not only by the rich and powerful, who lord it over others in positions of power and authority. It’s also an approach adopted by people in general toward authority — including God’s authority.  It may work with the powers that be in this world, but it doesn’t work with God. In the Gospel reading for today, did you notice how those who are on the wrong side of Christ respond when Christ says they did not do the things that people of his kingdom do?  They say, “Lord, when was it that we saw you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison, and did not take care of you” (Matthew 25:44)?  And he will answer them, “Just as you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to me” (Matthew 25:45).  They thought they had done good things.They thought of themselves as good people. They expected God should be pleased with them, because they had minded their own business and stayed out of trouble. They may even think they had done great undertakings for the King, that they would have an elevated position in his kingdom because of high-powered things that they did. Jesus described such persons in his Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 7:21-23):

  • Not everyone who says to me, “Lord, Lord,” will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father in heaven. On that day many will say to me, “Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many deeds of power in your name?” Then I will declare to them, “I never knew you; go away from me, you evildoers.”

Too often people have the wrong idea, thinking Jesus owes it to everybody to be nice to them.  And they also think that if they go out of their way to do things they think God wants, that then they are entitled to extra rewards, sort of like people may think their donations or efforts on behalf of some political leader entitle them to perks and privileges in that person’s administration. But Christ our King doesn’t operate by those principles. Christ calls his people to follow him, not worldly “philosophy and empty deceit” or “human tradition” (Colossians 2:9). We are called to follow the truth according to Christ, whose kingdom is not of this world (cf. John 18:36). So let’s not be confused. Let’s not slip back into worldly thinking, into tallying up our good deeds as though keeping a scoresheet will impress Christ the King, or boasting about where we think we stand with God or how right or righteous we are. Being servants of Christ’s kingdom means setting ourselves aside and simply serving others. Christ established his kingdom by laying down his life for those whom he loved and came to serve. As servants of Christ the King, we carry on in his kingdom and extend his kingdom in the same way. We deny ourselves. We take up whatever crosses we may be asked to carry, and we do all we can to help others carry their crosses too (cf. Luke 29:23-25).  As the word of our King tells us, “Bear one another’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ (Galatians 6:2). That’s how we serve–and whom we serve–as the people of Christ the King. 

Posted by David Sellnow

A mother’s letter

Originally published on The Electric Gospel on July 22, 2017.

A letter to my son

Author’s name withheld for privacy.
A mother penned this letter to her son, a young adult who has been through much and has pulled away from church.  May we all heed this appeal to love — and forgive — one another more fully in the church.

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My dearest son,Many years ago, before you or your sisters were born, your father and I took a Bible class through church.  I am not sure what the topic was, but I will never forget the statement the pastor said. He said, “I can’t wait to get to heaven, as I have so many questions for God.” All I could think was there must be something wrong with me, as I have no questions. I felt that when I get to heaven all I will say is, “Thank you.” … Boy has that changed.

We have been through so much, and life has certainly not been easy for you, most of all.  My question for God now would be, “Why did my beautiful children, especially my son, have to suffer so much?”  I know that we were never promised a ‘charmed’ life as Christians.  In fact, we were told the opposite. As Christians we will suffer for our faith.  But why you, my sweet boy?

When your Christian friends were cyber-bullying you, and a Christian mother was talking about you negatively to others, it was nearly backbreaking. You chose then to stop going to church.  You felt that if this is how Christians act, then you didn’t want any part of it.  It is hard to argue with that; but blaming sinful people for their sins is one thing, blaming God is another.

I know that you have faith. We still talk about God, but not enough. You know that God loves you. You have gone through hell and back … but the main point is that you came back. You couldn’t have done that without God’s help. God has given you a new life, a new outlook, a new hope. He has never left you. You have started over with so many things in your life to get to this point; it is time to start over with your attitude about those people that hurt you. Yes, they were and still are Christians; but they are also sinners. God has forgiven even the worst sins that you and I have ever done. Don’t you think that it is time to forgive them?

I was angry too. But, that anger is sinful when we hold onto it, when we use it as a punishment. Forgiveness may be selfish, a way to make ourselves feel better, but it is also necessary to show love to God’s people.  Jesus’ beloved disciple John said, “Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life residing in him. This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters” (1 John 3:15-16).  My only real job on this earth was to make sure you and your sisters get to heaven. I want to be with you someday in eternity. Find forgiveness in your heart and come back to church.

All my love,

Mom
Posted by David Sellnow

A letter to my peers, under pressure

by Hannah Mielke

Originally published on the Electric Gospel on March 10, 2017, this is a letter intended for young Christians who are feeling the pressures of the world around them. It is intended to remind them of their sin, but more importantly to remind them of God’s love, encouragement and peace.

Thanks to social media, the modern generation is a tight-knit community.  Of course, it can be argued that person-to-person connections have a greater value. This is true; there is a large benefit to talking to someone in person. However, in-person connections are limited by distance and time. Social media allows an opportunity to forge connections with people all around the world. This is great; there is a network of support and encouragement for everyone who may need it.  However, there is a downside. We violate this command: “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen” (Ephesians 4:29). I am guilty of this and I know you are as well. It is so easy to let negative and degrading words slip. Maybe to fit in, maybe to blow off some steam – pick your reason. Any words that are spoken, whether in person or online, have the potential to be heard, but social media can make that all the more likely. When words are exchanged in “the real world,” the speakers tend to be more careful of the other person’s feelings. The person is a real, physical, being who is standing before them. That physicality is lost on the Internet, and so it is even more vital to be careful about words that are exchanged through online posts.

When people are ridiculing you for something your life centers around, it can be hard to respect them.  Respect is a word that applies to every aspect of our lives.  We all know that we should respect our parents and others in authority. However, we sometimes forget just how far that respect should extend. Christ asks us to respect and show honor to those whom we may feel deserve the least respect from us.  We are the tools through with the Spirit changes hearts … and you never know whose heart is about to be softened.

What you say is a big deal. People judge you based on your words. This is especially true when it comes to poor language. You may not mean this intentionally, but people will judge your faith based on the words that come out of your mouth.  So “simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one”(Matthew 5:37).  If your language is filled with cuss words, you will not stick out from the coarse world around you. As Christians, God asks us to stick out, to be different. That difference can be hard. People who are different attract attention and not all that attention is good attention. However, we can face any amount of ridicule because Christ’s love protects us. He never leaves our side, and he sees what we are facing daily. He is pleased to call us his own.

Right now you are rolling your eyes, because you have heard this all before. I am not the first one to tell you that you are sinful. Every generation looks down on the generation after them. They judge those younger than them in every way possible. It seems like the judgment is especially strong for the youth today.  We have different beliefs than the generation that came before us. God understands those struggles, and he will see you through them. He speaks straight to your soul: “Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity” (1 Timothy 4:12).
One of the struggles that young people face every day is anxiety about their lives ahead. More people speaking out about those fears has led to an increased awareness of mental health in young adults. Anxiety is overwhelming and frustrating. God knows that, and he has spoken about it. “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7).   God understands; Christ promises peace.

You know those days when your worries are so great that you feel that you are nothing special? Well, guess what?  It is that feeling that makes you special. It’s okay to be a bland person. God took the blank canvas of your life and turned it into a breathtaking piece of art.  Some of my favorite verses in the Bible are these:  “But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. God chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things–and the things that are not–to nullify the things that are” (1 Corinthians 1:27-28).

So don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young. Live in truth and purity.  God will do amazing things with you.
Posted by David Sellnow