What do you want?

Recently I ran across something I wrote years ago. It’s advice I need to take to heart still. Maybe it’s something you struggle with too.

Satisfied vs. Unsatisfied

by David Sellnow

The roots of human nature can be observed in children. They will have their hearts set on some new toy they’ve seen in a store or on TV. They beg, they whine, they moan to get their wish. Then one day – either for the joy of giving or just to end the groaning – their parents buy them the toy they desire. The child is enthralled – so happy that they’re hopping. They play with the toy all day, show it off to every friend and relative. They could not be more satisfied. But the next day, or within a few days, they’re back to asking for the next new thing. “Mom, I really want this toy!” The chant has changed. The satisfaction ended. The child is wanting again.

As I said, what is observable in children is human nature in all of us. We all yearn to be satisfied by this thing, or that thing.

• If I could just have a Lexus (or other luxury car), I’d be happy.
• If I could just have that new house in that upscale subdivision, then I’d be happy.
• If I could just find a better job …
• If I lived in a different city …
• If I had a better body, a prettier face, a different appearance …
• If I had more free time, more money, more vacation days …
• If I had all these things that my heart desires, then I finally find the happiness I seek.

Wrong. The problem is not that I don’t have all the things my heart desires. The problem is a perpetually unsatisfied heart.

People change jobs, move, undergo cosmetic surgery, dissolve marriages, make many other efforts in attempts to be happier. Often they find these things are not, in fact, the answer.

Happiness begins in the heart – when the heart is touched by God’s grace and is appreciative of God’s greater gifts. Forgiveness, faith, hope, eternity – all these things mean far more than money, place of residence, wardrobe, vehicles.

So, the next time you find yourself looking for happiness, don’t take an inventory of your assets or possessions. Seek a change of heart. Ask God for a healthy attitude, appreciative of his spiritual blessings. Pray, and listen to God‘s wisdom in the matter:

Real profit comes only to those who live contentedly as God would have them live. We brought absolutely nothing with us when we entered the world and we can be sure we shall take absolutely nothing with us when we leave it. Surely then, as far as physical things are concerned, it is sufficient for us to keep our bodies fed and clothed. 

Those who set their hearts on being wealthy expose themselves to temptation. They fall into one of the world’s traps, and lay themselves open to all sorts of silly and wicked desires, which are quite capable of utterly ruining and destroying their souls. For loving money leads to all kinds of evil, and some, in the struggle to be rich, have lost their faith and caused themselves untold agonies of mind.

But you, keep clear of such things. Set your heart not on riches, but on goodness, Christ-likeness, faith, love, patience and humility. Fight the worthwhile battle of the faith, keep your grip on that life eternal to which you have been called. 

• (1 Timothy 6:6-12, The New Testament in Modern English by J.B Phillips copyright © 1960, 1972 J. B. Phillips.)